what girls should never apologize for

to all the ladies in the house....

1. Never apologize for pursuing what makes you happy. Even if you need to quit your job, transfer schools, or move across country, always do what you really want.

2. Never apologize for using proper English. Keeping it real doesn't mean > speaking Ebonics.

3. Never apologize for giving your best in a relationship that just didn't work out.

4. Never apologize for being successful. Only haters want to keep you at > their level.

5. Never apologize for crying. Wear waterproof mascara and express yourself.

6. Never apologize for ten pounds you need to lose. People who truly care > about you will accept you as you are.

7. Never apologize for being frugal. Just because you save your money instead of blowing it on the latest fashion emergency doesn't mean you're cheap.

8. Don't apologize for being a single mom. Babies are a blessing.

9. Never apologize for treating yourself to something special. Sometimes you have to show yourself some appreciation.

10. Never apologize for leaving an abusive relationship. Your safety should always be a priority.

11. Never apologize for keeping the ring even if wedding bells won't chime.

12. Never apologize for setting high standards in a relationship. You know what you can tolerate and what simply gets on your nerves.

13. Never apologize for saying NO.

14. Never apologize for asking for what you want in bed. If you don't, then > who will?

15. Never apologize for wearing a weave. You bought it so it's yours.

16. Never apologize to your new friends about old friends. There's a reason she's been your girl from day one.

17. Never apologize for ordering dessert. Or more than one dessert.

18. Never apologize for dating outside your race. Just because you found Mr. Right across the color line doesn't mean you don't love your brothas.

19 . Never apologize for not knowing how to cook. Even if you can't burn like Grandma you know how to order good take out.

20 . Never apologize for your taste in clothes. It's your style.

2 1 . Never apologize for changing your mind

22 . Never apologize for exercising your right to choose. It's your body and your right.

23. Never apologize for making more money than your man, you work hard and you deserve to get paid.

24. Never apologize for being you! "KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND KEEP MOVING FORWARD"

wane the pain

someday someone's going to realize what a gem i am
i will be loved for the traits i never knew
he will kiss the tears from my eyes when they fall
he will embrace the sadness right out of my soul
the love he'll make me feel will bridge oceans and plains
and it will never fade, never wane

someday someone's going to comeby and take me from this loneliness
and it will not be because we are just friends
i will be told i am the best for him

i cry and shout now for that love to come
for my strength not to be the reason
i am both desired and despised
i have all my heart to give
yet no one to give it to

try as i might to show how i feel
you just won't have me- why?
it just confirms the notion-
i am unimportant, at least to you

i'm turning away now, i hope you'll miss me
i've run out of excuses to see you anyway
but please know that you'll always be held with regard
in my heart as my one, my special, my baby- - - - - - -.